Virginity is a social construct and not something you “lose”

I know this topic has been talked about a lot, but many people still don’t get that virginity is such a social construct! I hate the term “losing your virginity” because nothing is being lost, you’re just gaining experience. Nothing is lost from having sex (except some bodily fluids to be honest lol). Also the concept of “virginity” is extremely heteronormative, along with the concept of “first base, second base, third base, etc.”. If oral sex/anal sex aren’t truly considered “real sex” and don’t count as losing your virginity then that means non-straight people are forever “virgins”? I’d say if you are theoretically able to catch an STD you shouldn’t be considered a virgin. However, I believe that virginity should be defined by person to person and no one can invalidate your identity. Labeling someone as “pure” who hasn’t had intercourse and only recognizing PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex as truly “losing your virginity” is plain ignorant.

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